The WIN/WIN Guidelines of Conflict Resolution
(adopted from the New Jersey State Bar Foundation)
1. Take time for cooling off if needed. Find alternative ways to express anger.
2. Each person states their feelings and the problem as they see it using "I Messages." No blaming, no name calling, no interrupting.
3. Each person states the problem as the other person sees it.
4. Each person says how they are responsible for the problem.
5. Brainstorm solutions together and choose a solution that satisfies both - a Win/Win Solution.
6. Affirm, forgive or thank your partner.
During guidance lessons, Lawrence Intermediate School students are being taught how to solve their conflicts using Win/Win Guidelines. We would like every student to work out disputes this way, keeping the conversation productive and focusing on resolving issues respectfully. Please join us in trying the Win/Win Guidelines at home. By doing so, all members of the LIS community are working towards positive solutions in the same manner.
